Case of the Mondays

So it's only Monday because it's so late on Sunday. But I'm trying to have this new outlook on my social life. My goal is to not stress about my social life at all but just about school. And I've been doing a good job just about up until now. Now I'm struggling with the fact that I can't just treat Ricky the way I want to and expect him to be there at the end of the night when I go around kissing other boys. I don't want to do that to him. But I also don't want to drag him along or change my mind on him. I love him, I do. But my feelings are very different than if I was sexually attracted to him. And yes it's definitely a part of a relationship but where does the point in time come where you just say oh you're actually just such a great person that it doesn't even matter if you're not sexy or anything. but then the other part of me is saying well why are you going to settle for something, you deserve it all, you can have it all. But how!?